I’ve caught myself many times hoping something would turn out the way I wanted. When I catch myself hoping more than once, on a specific outcome, an alarm goes off in my head. The alarm says, “Get out of hoping. Come back to the truth of who you are. You’re a person who gets to have what she wants. You’re in fear and you just need to remember: Your outcomes are not decided by someone else!”
Duh! I forgot that I am the creator of my life. I do get to have the outcomes I desire. I also forgot that if the outcome doesn’t happen, life goes on and I’m still okay. If I find myself hoping intensely, it’s a sure sign of attachment. I feel I MUST have the outcome or life will suck.
“LET GO & GET REAL CONTROL!” my powerful self yells. So, I do. I make the choice to know I will get everything I desire. In the meantime, chill out.
It works like magic.
You may not think you are a person who hopes or wishes on a star. It’s easy to miss.
Here are some examples of hoping:
I hope the new person we just hired works out.
I hope it doesn’t rain for the event this weekend.
I hope we can still get tickets to the concert.
I hope we can find a parking spot close to the entrance.
I hope I make enough money this month.
I hope we get the asking price for our house.
I hope Frank isn’t late.
I hope I don’t run out of gas.
I hope Sandy likes me.
I hope I don’t bomb at my performance tonight.
These statements show that you have not decided, nor do you believe that you’ll get exactly what you want. There are a few things you can do when you catch yourself hoping.
- State the outcome (and mean it) as you want it to be. For instance, “We will get great seats for the concert.” Make a decision about how you want it to be.
- Take an inspired action to amp up your belief that you will attract the outcome. For instance, call Frank to remind him where he is supposed to be and at what time.
- Chill out. Nothing good can happen out of stress or worry. If you can’t truly believe that your desired outcome is a done deal, then shift your thoughts to an entirely different area of your life. Focus on something that feels good. Go for a walk or pick up the phone and dial up someone who is uplifting.
This may seem sooooooo basic for me to even write about, but you wouldn’t believe the number of clients I hear “hoping” in front of me… even when we’ve just spent twenty minutes talking about them being a deliberate creator in their life. It’s simply a habit.
You can impact your outcomes by being very clear that you always get what you want. Take inspired actions to seal the deal. I said inspired actions.
Don’t take actions from a place of paranoia.
You don’t want to call your husband four times in a day to remind him to pick up the kids. You have more control of your outcomes when you feel grounded. Take actions from that place. Practice knowing versus hoping and you’ll notice that well-being and confidence surround you. The results you manifest won’t be half bad either. 😉