How to Stop Getting Bogged Down in the Problem

Are you doing the work?

You know that thing in your life or business that is driving you crazy because it’s not changing? Are you frustrated enough to really get down to business with it?

You may think you've tried everything already, but you probably haven’t. There’s a solution, but you just haven’t sniffed it out yet because you’re so bogged down in the problem.

When I ask if you’re doing the work, I don’t mean physical action. I mean the internal work. It’s not even really work, it’s a practice. It’s taking the time each day to practice a different perspective on your topic of angst.

If your “thing” is about losing weight, have you stopped the internal complaining about the current state of your body? Have you made peace with how your body feels and looks? Do you trust that you are headed to a slimmer and healthier you?

Have you stopped feeling like a failure with money? Have you started considering yourself prosperous rather than broke? If you can’t get over the reality of what is happening right now, you’ll never, ever get what you want.

If you want a different relationship with a family member, have you truly acknowledged that you can be the one responsible for turning it around? It’s the internal work and shifting on a daily basis that will score you results in any situation, not what you say or do.

Get serious about the business of shifting your beliefs. Trust that you will get to the other side of this mountain.

Decide that things are already shifting even though you don’t see any physical evidence of it.

If you have to work on this sixty days in a row, so be it. You can decide that the practice will be easy or a pain in your booty, but it is your choice. You’ve got the power in every moment to get things moving in your favor.

This type of “work” is more important than any other action item on your list. If you don’t believe me, then keep doing what you’ve been doing and see how it goes.

I’m being a sassy pants. I get to do that, because I’ve been a master at just trying to get shit done instead of backing off and taking the time to go inward.

I’ve been the queen of buying into my reality and having internal hissy fits over it.

Try my new focus:

When I go down a negative path, I ask myself, “What’s the shift I want right now? What would make this moment better??”

Move toward the solution instead of being focused on the problem. Don’t give the problem the luxury of ranting about it. Stop the thought at the pass.

(Rant to get it out of your system, but then get back to the shifting.)

Focus forward on what you really want; begin collecting evidence that it’s already here.

And in your present moment, know that all is well… right now.

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Megan Bowes
This is great! I love the 3 questions to get back on track. Thank you!
Jeanna Gabellini
My pleasure. If you ever want me to write an article on a specific topic...let me know!
Jeanna Gabellini
Haaaa!!! I can read your mind! Time to move to 7-figures and beyond!
Virginia Reeves
When I go down a negative path, I ask myself, “What’s the shift I want right now? What would make this moment better??” Jeanna - this is a great little mantra to chant when that inner critic or other unsupportive force wiggles in. Thanks for this post, and all the others you share.
Caroline
AWESOME!!! You hit the NAIL ... on the ASS!! I'm a sassy pants too, making this mistake for decades! It is POWERFUL MEDICINE to ask myself in the moment, "what's the shift I want right now??" I've been moving in this direction for a month now and It's starting to work! I'm having more calm days with better sleep and better interactions with people. In the past, I've been successful building multiple 6 figure businesses but now see it's likely impossible to get to 7 figures without this internal change. THANK YOU for writing this blog!!! It's really added further support to my endeavors and fuel to keep going. YOU GOT me! ... and I love you for it!