We’re constantly being told by coaches, mentors, self-help books, and more that we’ve got to set goals. Identify our dreams. Play bigger. Make more money. S-t-r-e-t-c-h ourselves. Go beyond our current limitations. And, I agree.
But… sometimes it’s easier said than done.
We’ve got fears.
Fear of the unknown; fear of failure; fear that it’ll be too much work; fear that we’ll lose it all once we arrive; fear of not being good enough.
In moments of inspiration we set goals that are beyond anything we’ve ever done before, and all of sudden we choke or back off.
You need to beef up your belief that you can actually achieve the goal and not have to jump through painful hoops to get there.
One of the quickest ways to get your mind in the right place, so that you can take powerful and swift actions, is to…
… look for proof. Proof that you’re aligned with the goal.
Proof that it’s possible. All the positive evidence you collect, big or small, is useful.
Most of us are masters at collecting negative evidence that we’re going too slow, things aren’t working out, we’re not doing it right, and the negative spiral goes on and on.
Here’s an example of the thoughts I wrote down and spoke out loud when I was beefing up my belief that I could raise my monthly coaching fee back in the early 2000s:
- I give value to my one-on-one clients that far surpasses my fee.
- If Tony Robbins can charge $1,000,000 a year for coaching, I’m a bargain!
- I’m totally committed to giving every client their all.
- My clients get results that are worth whatever I charge.
- I am worthy of any goal I go after.
- I am a Master Certified Coach and have a ton of experience to share with clients.
- People pay me several thousand for a half day of team coaching already, so raising my coaching fee for single clients is aligned with other fees I already charge.
- People believe in me.
- I always get whatever I go after.
- Many coaches charge triple my desired fee with ease, so I can too.
Sure, I had my fears that I’d be turning away potential clients at this new fee.
I had a hard time spitting the fee out of my mouth the first few times people inquired about my coaching. I feared my current clients would drop out if I raised their rates.
But before I successfully raised my rates, I did the inner work. For several weeks I kept boosting my belief that this goal would be easy for me. It was a daily practice.
I affirmed that I was a person who made 6 figures a year coaching. I began BEcoming that person in my mind before I charged my new fee.
Then I took action.
Many times we either don’t do the inner work at all or begin taking action before we believe the goal is possible. Sometimes we’ll search for the perfect sequence of actions to get us from point A to Point B and then struggle, struggle, struggle.
When you’re 100% behind the goal, the actions will reveal themselves in a very easy manner.
Years ago, my business partner and I talked about needing to change our website. It needed a menu makeover, among other things. Neither of us was truly behind the idea.
Everything about it felt hard, and we couldn’t figure out how to make it all come together.
Then we boosted up our belief about generating a much bigger income. (An exciting topic for us… and a prettier website was part of that vision.)
Within the next several weeks afterward, the actions to fix the website flooded in. Our team moved quickly and with little effort.
Had we pushed ourselves to transform the site before we were in total belief that it would be easy, it would have been a big headache.
It can be helpful to talk to someone who has already achieved the goal (or a similar goal).
When you talk to them, it’s not about taking the same path they took to get there. It’s more about using them as part of your evidence that what you want is possible. In fact, you can research people on the internet who’ve achieved what you want as part of your proof, too.
Evidence that success is inevitable for you is everywhere. You’ve just gotta make a habit of fixating on it, instead of on evidence that it’s NOT possible.
What’s one piece of evidence that you’ll achieve your goal?