Have you ever gotten spun up trying to figure out the details of a project and found yourself stuck because some of them simply didn’t present themselves?
I have, and more than once. I’ve also ruined joyous vacation planning by wondering how to figure out everything before my arrival.
Sometimes the only way to get the details is to stop trying to figure out the details.
Yep, you just have to be satisfied with knowing the general outcome you’d like to achieve or experience.
The details will unveil themselves as you relax and move forward with the pieces of the puzzle that you already have in your possession.
Speaking from experience, this whole riddle about “attracting” the details can be quite painful unless you relinquish control.
I’ve learned some powerful lessons about trying to control all the pieces of my business, my vacations, and the relationships I hold most dear. Whenever I find myself forcing things to happen, nothing goes well.
My body pays the price as well with tight muscles, colds, hives, and a host of other temporary ailments.
The little Gremlin that lives inside of all of us will try to convince you that you are being responsible by paying attention to all of the details and making sure you follow through on everything you think is “right.” Look, control is something you already possess. Because your focus and emotional response to that focus creates your experiences in life, you always have the power to make changes for the better.
Some years ago I was examining my calendar of events and seminars I had planned to facilitate for the coming year.
My Inner Business Expert told me that I should push out a live event and a mastermind program a few months.
But my brain could not figure out how to make the shift work with all my other plans. I finally let it go and called my BFF for some advice on the subject.
Eva came up with the most perfect idea that never occurred to me from my “I HAVE TO FIGURE OUT THE DETAILS RIGHT NOW!” hour of mental masturbation.
Your own Inner Guidance will eventually lead you to all the perfect details, but you must trust that all is well in the meantime.
This is not about having patience. The key is trusting that you are just fine where you are in the process of the plan or project. Perfection is already present, so you don’t have to push or rush for it.