- Only commit to things that you truly want to do and have time to do.
- If you find that your commitment no longer feels good or there’s not enough time to complete without stressing yourself out, tell the truth immediately to whomever you made the commitment.
- Keeping your word should feel compelling not like a heavy responsibility.
Keeping Your Word
I think most people will agree that keeping your word is a good thing. I know that when someone tells me they are going to do something that will positively impact me in some way, I want them to follow through. Yet, the flip side of this value of integrity can take you into a tailspin. I’ve spent many a coaching session with my most successful clients getting them to drop the rigidity of this seemingly positive quality. Have I thoroughly confused you? You see every personal value has a dark side when you go out of balance with it. I used to be over-the-top about integrity and it irritated my friends. They teasingly called me “The Integrity Police.” I finally got it. I was so rigid about everyone telling the truth, keeping his or her word, being responsible and doing the right thing that I caused myself a lot of unnecessary pain. Here’s what I see as the way you can keep your word and have it be a super duper positive experience for everyone involved.