Is business down? Are you fighting with a family member?
Are you wondering how you’re going to keep your house? Has your mate been
cheating on you? Does your body keep going through one health issue after
Well? What if you just said, “So WHAT?!” to the whole darn
I mean there comes a point when you can’t keep stressing over what
has been or what is. Stressing over the future is a total and complete
waste of time. When you worry about a future that isn’t even here, you’re just
making stuff up.
So what! You’ve got a problem. Me, too! I’ve got several that interrupt my
level of sanity and peace and I want to scream my bloody head off. Sometimes the
problem seems like a complete and total tragedy. But, if you keep making what
has happened a big hairy deal, then you’re doomed to more cruddy stuff
“So, what!” has become one of my favorite sayings when my judgment about
myself starts dragging me through the mud. I help clients incorporate this
saying into their life so they can give themselves permission to be free
from the past.
Now, you might think I’m not being compassionate with this attitude. I am so
committed to you and me not suffering that it’s quite the opposite. Painful
circumstances can drown you in stress and ruin your finances, relationships, and
health. I’m not willing to have the past hold you down.
The negative stuff that happens to you doesn’t need to be given so
much attention. You’re just regenerating the problem over and over and
over. So not cool! Let it go.
Yes, I know sometimes you might really mess up your life. But must you keep
punishing yourself for something that happened yesterday, last year, or when you
were a teenager? You are NOT a failure, bum, bad parent, or bad
You are just living. You’re finding your groove. You’re doing your best to
lighten up. You’re probably doing a much better job in your life than you give
yourself credit. If you stopped paying to attention to what isn’t working,
you’d notice that you have a bucket full of evidence that says you are a
totally fab person.
Did you reach all your goals this quarter? If you didn’t…so what?! Do
something different today. You have an opportunity to be present right
now and create rock star results. Consider today a clean canvas upon which you
get to create a beautiful life.