Even powerful people unintentionally give away their power.
It often happens on autopilot… disguised as “being responsible,” “keeping the peace,” or “doing it right.”
Every time you do one of the following, your power goes bye-bye…
- Say yes when you mean no.
- Wait for someone else to validate your worth.
- Tone yourself down to be liked.
Unfortunately, you may not even notice it when it’s happening. But inside, it doesn’t feel good.
Diminishing your power can also look like…
- Outsourcing your truth by asking 17 people what they think before you check in with yourself.
- Delay a decision waiting for a “sign” when really… you already know what you want but you don’t trust yourself.
- Playing small so no one feels threatened by your bigness or uniqueness.
- Twisting yourself into a pretzel to be liked, picked, or praised.
- Making yourself the problem when other people are uncomfortable with your boundaries or direction.
- Shoving down your rage, grief, desire, joy… because someone somewhere told you those were too much.
- Lowering your pricing because you need the moola.
All of this shizz drains you. Not just mentally, but energetically.
You can’t hit your goals or create your dream life from a place of depletion.
But you can take back your power faster than you think.
How to take your power back…
- Make one decision without asking anyone.
Don’t poll the group chat. Don’t check astrology. Don’t wait for permission. Make a choice and back it. - Say no, clean and clear without explanation.
Even if your voice shakes. Even if they get upset. - Pivot when you make yourself wrong.
Replace negative self-talk.
“I suck at this” becomes “I’m learning.”
“I can’t afford it” becomes “I’m choosing not to invest right now.”
Be at choice instead of feeling like a victim.
- Stop performing and be real and raw.
Being real is magnetic. Masks are exhausting. Being vanilla doesn’t conjure inspiration. - Own your emotions.
Whatever you feel, acknowledge it. If you’re gonna be mad, own it. If you’re happy, let it ooze out of you. Dance, breathe, scream into a pillow, vent, and spread joy without shame.
- Claim your desires.
If you want it, you’re worthy of having it. There’s nothing too small, big, or frivolous to want. Decide to have it. Write it down. Whisper it to your journal. Shout it on Instagram. Just stop hiding from it. That’s your inner guidance giving your directions.
Getting your power back doesn’t have to be a dramatic overhaul of your entire life all at once.
But you do need to notice where your power is leaking… and plug up those holes.
And if you’re in a season where everything feels upside down… it’s not failure or a doomsday future.
It’s your soul breaking up with who you thought you had to be.
One choice at a time. One boundary at a time. Choosing one desire to have in your immediate future.
Baby steps are how you take it back.