When the Universe throws you a curveball, it’s easy to slip into panic.
Most people obsess over the symptoms, the bills, the negative what-ifs, and every doomsday scenario their brain can cook up.
But focusing on the scary stuff anchors you to it.
You’ve gotta be vigilant with your thoughts in these moments. I ask myself: Is this train of thought gonna lead me to more fear or my ideal endgame?
I don’t like to focus on the steps between where I am and where I want to be, because I can easily be caught up in worry about those steps.
Instead, I go straight to a scene in the future that’s better than any reality I know.
So how do you stay plugged into your endgame when your whole being is screaming, “This is bad”?
There are five power moves that’ll help snap you back into alignment with your desired endgame…
- Recognize Your Story
Your situation is neutral… it’s your story about it that causes chaos. I can see my son’s accident as the scariest and worst thing ever, or see it for what it is: He’s healing from injuries in a hospital.
When you catch yourself freaking out (“What if this gets worse?”), you can:
Choose another story.
State what you want to believe and double down on it with certainty.
You could say to yourself, “That’s one story. I choose the one where everything’s turning in my favor.”
- Make Micro-Shifts
When your mind is on fire, your first goal isn’t positivity; it’s usually something like, “I just want to feel sane or safe.”
I use breathing as a way to slow down my thoughts. Take one slow breath and find one thing that feels safe about the situation right now.
Focus on how your body is being held by the chair. You have a roof over your head. The fact that you’ve made it through every rough patch before.
You want your brain to see, “We’re okay.” From that state, you can source solutions.
- Set a “Future Frequency”
Pick one sentence that represents your ultimate endgame… your “done deal.”
Say it daily until it feels normal.
“My health is thriving.”
“Moola is flowing in.”
“Love keeps expanding.”
“All is well.” < This is my fave.
I say it repeatedly while breathing in and out. The chaplain at the hospital showed me how to do this breathing with prayer the day after my son’s brain surgery. It reallllly calmed down my entire nervous system, so I continue the practice.
The goal isn’t to “make something happen.” The goal is to train your mind that it’s all working out.
- Collect Proof of Progress
Your mind often needs positive evidence to relax. So, start a simple practice:
At the end of each day, list 3 things that hint your endgame is in motion, whether it’s tiny or massive.
This rewires your attention from “What’s missing” to “Look how it’s happening.”
Momentum builds fast when you notice it. The more you notice, the more good stuff flows your way.
This is why I started the daily updates about my son’s recovery. I focused on the miracles, not the problems.
- Leverage Action
You can’t think your way out of fear… but you can move your way out.
What’s one thing your future self would do based on a guaranteed awesome outcome?
Then do it. It might be sending an email, making a call, resting, or taking a walk. Action aligned with your endgame is an easy way to step into your power.
During my son’s recovery, there were lots of things happening that triggered fear. I always felt better when I did something to make me feel empowered. I’d call my bestie. I’d ask the medical team if there was something we could do to help our son. I massaged his feet. I made plans for his future as if all was on track for his 110% comeback.
Each thing made me feel like the desired outcome wasn’t out of my control, even when it didn’t give us immediate results.
Reality will keep doing its up-and-down dance. Your job is to lock onto the future you’re calling in, and don’t sweat the steps between here and there.
Keep your focus on the ultimate endgame… and let faith take the wheel, not fear.