You know what most entrepreneurs are really good at?
Getting crystal clear on what they don’t want.
I don’t want…
Another launch flop.
Flaky clients.
To keep stressing about getting more clients.
To feel like I’m doing everything and still not getting ahead.
Sound familiar?
It’s subtle, but this is how we accidentally trap ourselves in a loop we’re desperate to escape.
After living and breathing client attraction (and confirmed by, oh… my entire client roster for almost three decades), potential clients don’t respond to your words.
They respond to your vibe.
And when you’re focused on what you don’t want (i.e. I need to figure out how to evolve out of being broke), you’re still radiating the frequency of what’s not working.
So when you say, “I don’t want another month like that one,” the vibe is: struggle, fear, lack.
When you say, “Ugh, I just need to get someone to say yes,” the vibe is: scarcity, doubt, frustration.
When you say, “Why aren’t people buying?” the vibe is: Something’s wrong with me or them.
When you think there’s a problem or you’re doing something wrong, you create results to match that thinking.
What you’re asking for might be buried in there somewhere, but the dominant signal you’re sending is resistance.
And that signal repels what you want because it’s not a match.
Some sneaky examples of this trap…
- Saying “I want more clients”… while constantly checking your DMs, feeling anxious when it’s quiet, and telling yourself you suck at marketing
- Launching a fresh offer with the energy of “this better work or I’m screwed”
- Raising your rates but bracing for people to say no…
- Dreaming about scaling… while thinking “I’m so behind” all day
- Posting empowering advice while worrying about whether you’re even qualified to give it
We think we’re focused on the outcome. But energetically, we’re tangled up in what we don’t want:
How to ask for what you want with cleaner energy…
Step 1: Ask clearly… without the emotional baggage.
Say what you do want without justifying it, explaining why it hasn’t happened, or hedging your bets.
When manifesting, hedging your bets is like placing an order with the Universe… and then saying, “Eh, whatever you’ve got lying around is fine too.”
Not exactly a power move.
Other ways it can look…
“I’d love 5 new clients, but even one would be fine…”
“I really want this launch to fill, but I know it’s a weird time of year…”
“I want to hit 10K, but let’s be real, I’ll be happy with 3K.”
Just go straight to what you want… “I’m ready for five soul-aligned clients.”
Step 2: Focus on how it feels to already have it.
Close your eyes and picture yourself on the other side of what you want. The joy of serving ideal clients. Enjoying the moola that’s coming. Working on inspiring projects because you’re busy hustling to make it rain.
Imagine telling your friend, “They signed up with ease. They’re excited. I’m excited. This is totally working.”
Do this instead of playing mental ping-pong with “Why isn’t it happening yet?”
Step 3: Act from alignment, not panic.
Don’t post, pitch, or pivot out of fear. Before taking action, ask:
“Would I still do this if I knew what I wanted was already on its way?”
If the answer is no, find a way to chill. Let your energy catch up to your desire for more clients before you make your next move.
Step 4: Use a simple daily practice to stay in the frequency of receiving.
(Like the one I created in the Client Magnet Template. It takes just 5 minutes.)
I use my Speed Dial the Universe journal.
Other simple practices…
Visualize your desire as already done. Feel the relief, the excitement, the “of course this happened” energy.
Write a short daily script from your future self as if it already happened.
Ask for what you want, affirm that it’s on its way, then consciously chill (walk, breathe, sip something warm… anything other than obsessing on the problem).
It’s easy to fool yourself that obsessing over the problem feels productive or responsible… but receiving what you asked for feels a hell of a lot better.