Nothing Is TOO Outrageous

Have you ever had one of those desires that made you smile when you thought about having it? Maybe you imagined enjoying the sights on your dream vacation to Europe or on a remote island.

I love imagining surprising my dad with a house overlooking the delta waterways with his boat parked out front. I also like thinking about paying off my mom’s mortgage or paying for a cruise for my 100 favorite people.

It’s such a wonderful feeling to daydream about things that make your heart sing.

There comes a point in your life where you decide that rather than just adding things to your life’s Wish List (or Bucket List) that you are going to move it over to the “I’m going to go for this desire this year” side of the paper.

It’s an exciting moment… when you decide to make it real.

The first time you share this decision with someone can feel empowering. It can also bring out that nasty voice saying, “Are you kidding?! That desire is way out of your range. That is too big of a goal.”

Over the years, I’ve had many clients come to me with very fun and creative business ideas. Attached to those ideas were visions of wealth coming their way while they lived their passion. Unless they’re used to living out on the leading edge, there is a moment (or two or three) where they say, “Am I nuts for thinking I can do this? Is this too outrageous of a goal?”

My reply is always the same, “There is nothing that is too outrageous or impossible.”

Everything is a good idea. If it lights you up when you think about it, it’s a good path to follow. Passion drives all good ideas, whether they are business focused or for personal pleasure and play.

Some years ago, I took a steam train from Felton, CA, to Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk. All day long I saw manifestations that came from someone’s inspired idea… and they made it a reality:

  • Steam train rides during the holiday season that are lit up with thousands of lights
  • Steam train that goes on a downtown historic street (which cars also drive and park on) of Santa Cruz several times a day
  • Amusement park at the beach
  • A blimp flying through the sky with passengers aboard
  • Automobile that zips down roads at 100 mph
  • Tunnels that are blasted straight through mountains
  • Deep-fried cheesecake and Twinkies
  • Baby monitor that allows you to listen to your child from the other end of the house
  • Pier lined with restaurants and shops
  • Cotton candy
  • Chocolate-dipped ice cream cones (how does the ice cream not fall out of the cone when it’s been dipped upside down?!)
  • Cash register that rings up the total of multiple items and automatically adds sales tax

You have great ideas all the time. Choose to move forward with one. You get to pick your pleasure. Next, decide the very first baby step to get it in motion.

No baby step means it stays on the bucket list side of the paper.

Begin now and the wind will be at your back. So will the Universe. ;-)

 

 

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Daily Practices For Abundance

Creating daily practices for success is always a big focus when I first begin working with a client. The trick is to make sure that the stuff you say you want to practice is a “want to,” not a “have to.”

The practices that most people want to focus on have to do with exercising, eating, action steps to get clients, cleaning, reading, and bookkeeping.

I’d like to suggest that you also have practices that support you in feeling and acting abundant. Not just abundant with money but also knowing that your world is bursting with abundance of all good things.

If you feel a shortage of time, daily practices for you might be:

  • Reading a fun book for 15 minutes
  • Blocking out time for special projects you’ve been meaning to do
  • Setting an intention before you get up in the morning that time will feel expansive

If you feel a shortage of confidence, daily practices for you might be:

  • Do one thing that you know you are good at (a sport, cooking, puzzles, writing articles)
  • Write five things you love about yourself
  • Make a list of your successes for the day

If you feel a shortage of money, daily practices for you might be:

  • Carry $100, $500, or $1,000 in your wallet at all times
  • Virtually (in your imagination) spend money on two things you’d like
  • Write a list of five ways money has served you well in the past
  • Pretend money is your BEST friend; what would you say to it?

If you feel a shortage of luxury, daily practices for you might be:

  • Drink amazing wine, tea, coffee, and/or eat your favorite foods
  • Spend 15 minutes or more doing something you usually reserve for only when it’s the weekend or when you’re on vacation
  • Wear an expensive piece of jewelry or something that reminds you of your current abundance
  • Display fresh flowers in the house

You have abundance in your life right now. Daily practices that encourage you to enjoy it will allow you to create more joy and abundance.

 

 

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Intimacy Is Attractive

Many years ago I attended a 70th birthday party for an extraordinary coach and leader, Chuck Roppel. The invitation said the price of admission to his one-man show was that you had to wear a dress.

 

I had no idea what we were in for at this event. We dolled ourselves up and were delighted to see that even the men attending wore dresses (although some very reluctantly!).

 

The dresses were used as a potent metaphor for the different “dresses” or “roles” we wear throughout our lives. We have the dress of being a good student… or a rebellious one. The dress of an employee for this company or an owner of that one.

 

We have our dresses that stay on for decades or the ones we try on and tear off immediately. Each dress leads us to the next dress.

 

Chuck’s one-man show took us through all the dresses of his life up to that point. I thought I knew him well after being in a leadership program with him for a year and hanging out with him for over a decade.

 

I was wrong.

 

Chuck revealed so much about himself at his celebration that most people were moved to tears and/or hollering with joy. He created so much intimacy in the theatre that the room buzzed with admiration and love for this amazing man.

 

He did it by simply being himself and inviting us into his journey. He told stories, tap danced, sang, and dressed in his own ball gown at the end. He held nothing back about who he has been and what he craves for the future. It was sooo attractive.

 

I believe more intimacy can be allowed into all of our lives. In fact, I’d love to see more of it in the business world. Much more. I mean real intimacy.

 

Too many people are hiding behind what will look professional or trying to make a good impression. Some folks don’t even know they have armor on. When you withhold who you are, you pinch off the flow of abundance. You repel instead of attract.

 

Now, I’m not promoting airing your dirty laundry. We don’t need to know all of the details of your past. But we are attracted to people who know how to create intimacy by fully showing us what’s underneath the dress.

 

We want to see You. Simply you. Be good at allowing YOU to come through everything you do in your biz, and your 5-Star Clients will come a knockin’.

 

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Client Attraction Formula: Discover the “Real” WHY Factor

There are so many experts talking about client attraction strategies, but this article from Carmel Finnan will make your head turn at something so potent that any entrepreneur can (and should) do to attract the attention of their potential 5-Star Clients.

Client Attraction Formula: Discover the “Real” WHY Factor

As an entrepreneur you want to create a powerful connection with your tribe, inspire trust and loyalty, and have your ideal clients lining up to buy from you.

But, how do you do all that? According to best-selling author and motivational speaker Simon Sinek, you “Start with Why.”

His famous TED talk, with over 3 million views, and best-selling book by the same name, gave us the simple Golden Circle Formula that promised to revolutionize how we do business. Simply put: “People don’t buy what you do, they buy why you do it.”

Sinek showed us how it successfully works with examples across a wide social, scientific, and economic spectrum, from Apple to Martin Luther King to the Wright Bros.

But that’s not what actually happens for many entrepreneurs.

Clients didn’t line up to buy after we’d bared our purpose. Our audiences weren’t immediately inspired by our cause to buy from us. Nor did we quickly become successful leaders in our field because of sharing our beliefs.

Is it me, or is it the formula?

It didn’t work for a very simple reason. One size does not fit all! What works for Apple does not seamlessly downscale for small businesses.

The blind-spot in Sinek’s formula runs through so much marketing material, particularly how we misuse storytelling. Starting with your “why,” or telling your unique story, is simply too much too soon. It’s equivalent to planning a big joint family get-together on the first date.

Unlike Sinek’s examples, the “ordinary” small business owner, i.e. people like you and me, are not (yet) famous, have not achieved celebrity status, and do not command immediate attention when they post on social media or stand on a podium. The hard reality is this: people are actually not interested in our “why,” nor in our unique, authentic stories. They are only interested in their own!

How do we, the not-yet-famous entrepreneur, get the attention of our potential clients and hold it long enough to convert them into ideal clients, eager to buy from us?

It’s NOT about YOU

We start with their “why,” not ours.

We provide a satisfactory answer to the primary why-question of our potential clients: “Why should I give you my attention?”

And to answer that crucial question effectively, you have to tell them a story that makes them feel that you know them, i.e. who they are, what they struggle with, and what they really want.

In other words, your opening story lets them know that you care about them by addressing THEIR fundamental concerns. The pivotal issue here is this. If you can’t answer THEIR “why” convincingly, you will never get to the point where YOUR “why” is relevant to them.

The Golden Rule of getting your clients’ attention…

Your introductory story is NOT about you. It’s about your CLIENTS.

That means your story has to first get THEIR attention. To do that you tell them what you can do for THEM. That creates a sense of curiosity about you and a bridge to why you do what you do.

Here’s a quick neuro-scientific explanation for that important sequence.

Just think lizard brain. It’s concerned only with our survival and self-preservation and is activated when we are confronted with “threats,” such as new situations or new people. When our lizard brain is turned on, we’re not capable of tuning into someone else’s story.

We can only connect with and build sustainable relationships with new people after their lizard brain response has been calmed. And we do that by reassuring them that we know who they are and what their struggles and desires are.

Only then can we engage with their limbic brain – that’s the part responsible for emotions and feelings. Simply put: when we move them into the limbic brain, their built-in defense mechanism is lowered and they are ready to move into relationship building, i.e. engage with our story.

So, what’s the impact of this on your marketing?

Starting with your “why” is equivalent to a farmer who throws seeds on a barren, uncultivated field and expects a bumper crop because the seeds are good quality. Starting with your client’s “why” is when the farmer first creates fertile ground and only then sows the seeds.

Lining up your “whys” in the right order is the difference between harvesting a bumper crop and salvaging a few random, resilient survivors.

If you want to learn more about how to create a bumper harvest of ideal clients, eager to invest in your business – grab Carmel’s FREE Guide here. 

Categories: Business, Manifesting Desires, Personal Growth, Success Strategies, and Wealth.

Stop Complaining

Back in my thirties I set an intention one year to stop gossiping. I don’t necessarily consider myself a big gossiper, but I do it. What’s the big deal about gossiping? I don’t feel good when I am repeating a story about someone that doesn’t need to be told, if you know what I mean.

(Keep reading, even if you don’t give a poop about gossiping. I have a bigger point to make.)

I consider gossip to be talking about someone, or even myself, for any reason other than to celebrate, acknowledge, learn, or create a solution. If I am not seeking to empower someone with the conversation, I’m actually depleting my own power.

If I’m gossiping, it is usually because I have an unconscious desire for something. It may be to get attention or to feel powerful or maybe even to get sympathy (i.e., “Can you believe Joe Blow did that to me?!”). So, now I’m feeding myself from a place of lack. Retelling a negative story is not a logically good decision.

And you are spending time and energy on something that doesn’t thrill you in the first place. So now you get to experience the negativity two times or more, depending on how many times you repeat the story.

Another thing that potentially happens is that you enroll the person you’re talking to into the same negative emotions. Pretty soon they are colluding with you and getting all fired up. Now you’re both sending negative waves of emotion.

The bottom line is, whatever you focus on, you get more of. Ever notice that when someone close to you does a few irritating things in one day that capture your attention, it feels as if there’s been an avalanche of bickering by day’s end? That’s because the world is mirroring your thoughts back to you.

All of the above applies to anytime you complain about any circumstance in life, not just about certain people. When you catch yourself repeating negative stories, ask yourself the following questions:

  • What do I really want from telling this story?
  • What will be the impact on the person I am talking to?
  • What will be the impact on the person or circumstance I’m talking about?
  • How does it feel to be telling this story?
  • If I could have any result I wanted about this situation or conflict, what would it be?
  • What are two or more positive actions I can take to turn this situation around?
  • Is this how I want to spend my time with the person I am talking to?

These questions will support you in stepping fully into your power.

I’m a big advocate of telling a story to a respected person in your life for the sake of creating a solution or to shift your energy by having a different perspective. If you simply need to vent, let the person you’re talking to know that you’re venting and then set a time limit. Five to fifteen minutes is usually enough to give a good emotional dump. Any more time and you are just rehashing all the little details.

The flip side of all this is when you’re the person listening to the complaining. You have a choice. You do NOT have to listen to anything that does not feel good. You can simply request that the person talk to someone else about the situation or gently guide the conversation in a positive direction.

If you catch yourself joining in the negative downward spiral, stop. You can even tell your friend, “Hey, I just noticed that I was supporting you in keeping the problem alive versus feeling better. Let’s switch our conversation to something more solution oriented.”

Complaining your life away usually comes from a fear that you can’t have what you want.

If there are two ways to communicate, either from love or fear, I lovingly remind myself to come back to love. ;-)

 

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Six Ways to Rock Your Money Game!

I asked financial independence expert Belinda Rosenblum to share her best tips on long-lasting ways to make more, save more, and pay down debt faster. Here are six ways to rock your money game!

Six Ways to Rock Your Money Game!

Everyone wants more money and less debt, right? Here are six tips you CAN do this week to save more, pay off debt, and even earn more—how many will you try?

  1. Begin with a S.M.A.R.T. goal in mind.

It’s all well and good to say you want to pay down debt, but when you have no specific target in mind, it’s a lot easier to break out the credit card when something unexpected comes up.

Set a goal for when you want a certain account paid off, and then do the math to see what you’ll have to do in order to make that goal. If you find it’s really unreasonable, you can of course adjust your parameters, but try to stick with it until the end. With a clear objective and monthly plan, you may actually get there way faster than you thought!

  1. Learn to say no—creatively.

Sometimes it feels like you’re the only one struggling with money, so when your girlfriends want to go out to dinner, you feel compelled to join in the fun and keep the money troubles under wraps.

Instead of shutting off your social activities entirely, look for low-cost ways to spend time and connect with your friends. Instead of spa days or pricey dinners, try hosting a BYOB wine-tasting at your place, or head out for coffee and pastries.

  1. Automate!

When payday rolls around, the last thing you want to do is take a large chunk of your hard-earned cash and stick it into savings.

You won’t miss the money you don’t even see, though, so set up your account to move money to savings automatically, or have your employer direct deposit into two separate accounts. You might feel a pinch at first, but you quickly get used to “the new normal,” and VOILA—you’re a saver!

  1. Everything’s negotiable.

Quick! When’s the last time you looked at your cable bill or your car insurance? Let me guess—it’s been awhile…

Grab all the bills, set up a spot on your calendar, and start dialing. You can ask your cable provider, cell service provider, insurance company, and many more for discounts, and even your utilities, like your electric company, might have suggestions on how to lower your bills. This one can take a few minutes per call, but the savings LAST.

  1. Ask for that raise already (or just decide to raise your own rates).

When you get an annual cost-of- living increase, you barely even see or feel that 4%. Bummer.

So many people—women especially—don’t feel comfortable asking for more and, therefore, leave money on the table. Just because you get a small annual increase does NOT mean you can’t ask for a merit-based raise too, though. Pull together a thorough analysis of the extra value you’re bringing, decide on a number you want to go for, get your courage up, and GO FOR IT. The worst they can say is no—literally! But guess what? If your employer really values your contribution, there’s a good chance they’ll actually say YES.

  1. Give yourself a raise.

Self employed? You can do this, too. YES, you can charge what you’re worth—I promise, it’s allowed.

Increase your rates and communicate the new number to past and current clients. Sure, you charged $XX yesterday, but today, you charge $XXX. Easy as that. You don’t OWE working for peanuts to anyone, so calculate your new prices and move forward. Period.

 

If you want to ask questions about HOW to do these things or which you should tackle first, register for Belinda’s FREE training today, to get into action here .

 
Categories: Business, Manifesting Desires, Personal Growth, Success Strategies, and Wealth.

Sometimes You Just Gotta Get Off It

Have you ever gotten a whirlwind of negative thoughts about something important to you? Yeah, me too. What’s even more disheartening is when you know you’re doing it and you can’t get your mind in a good place about the topic.

You start trying every trick you know to think positive about the subject. For example, if you’re stressed out about getting clients, you may say to yourself, “Don’t worry. The money will come. I’m a millionaire. I appreciate money.”

Nothing happens. You’re still stressed about money.

Next you watch a Byron Katie or Michael Beckwith video about money. That doesn’t help either.

In coaching lingo, we call this process “being hooked.” It’s like having a hook through your mouth and being reeled into more negative thoughts. I experience this feeling as temporary insanity. I pray, “Can someone just take my brain away from me so I can relax for a moment?!”

You’re so emotionally charged about the topic, there is only one thing left to do. Get off it! The topic, that is. Stop trying to get to the positive feelings until you feel better in general.

This requires a whole switch in your focus. In these moments, I usually go for something that will capture my attention fully. For instance, a walk would give me more time to think… and that can be dangerous.

What works better for me is to go answer some emails, watch Netflix, listen to an Abraham-Hicks CD, make an entry in my appreciation journal, or go shopping. You have to go for full-on distraction. This will create a softer focus on the topic you were scaring yourself about.

I like to remind myself that everything always works out, and this, too, shall pass. By the way, it is sooooooo okay that you got tripped up… or should I say “tripped out”? Happens to all of us. I consider myself a conscious thinker, and I can go down the emotional sewer as fast as the best of them!

When you soften your focus on a highly charged subject, you can actually open to receive the solution… or inspiration will hit with the perfect action to take. This is better known as the “allowing” mode. You have to create some breathing room for the Universe to do what it does best. 

Just get off it. ;-)

 

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Open The Floodgates of Abundance

If you want the floodgates of abundance to open wide for you, here’s a surefire way to do it.

It’s truly not an intuitive strategy. Many of my coaching clients resist it. I also must confess that I sometimes resist it too. It’s a hard one to swallow when your life or business gets intense.

Are you ready for the number-one secret to solving every challenge you have?

Chill out.

That’s it. It’s the best strategy on the planet to rake in the abundance.

Anytime you feel the push that you must work harder, take more action, or figure out how to solve a crisis, simply take a step away from your current focus.

I spent almost two decades working on my business whenever I felt inspired.

Now my time is very limited since I had two children. Gasp!

Early on I set my intention that my life would be more balanced as a result of having babies and that I would make more money. I’ve had to remind myself of that declaration many times as I practiced letting go of all my “to-dos.”

I am thrilled to tell you that my business is currently the best it’s ever been. The added bonus is that I started reading again as soon as I had baby #1. I used to only read business and self-improvement books. Now I read for fun. The more time I spend chilling, water-skiing, and out of my office, the more inspiration I have.

More opportunities and clients come my way, too!

I noticed this same phenomenon in the real estate industry. I was coaching a whole office of realtors, and they joked about how every time they went on vacation, their business thrived. They thought it was unique to their industry. Nope. It’s a Universal Law.

When you release any resistance or stress in your life, you allow in the abundance that is your birthright.

This law is the reason we benefit from sleep, walks outside, meditation, movies, good music, and great conversations. These actions pull us away from any worries and toward more joy. Even an afternoon of hooky or play will allow you to get back to your life with a fresh perspective. Change your perspective and change your life.

Is there a topic in your life where you need to let go of all thought? A mini vacation from that issue will allow you to reconnect with your inner guidance. Once you’ve allowed yourself to come back to your power source, you’ll easily and naturally find the next step to take.

As they say, “Let go and let God.”

 

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How To Easily Create Your Marketing Calendar

I seriously hated the idea of creating a marketing plan the first time I was advised to create one. I didn’t know where to start, it sounded hard and I honestly didn’t know what it meant. After a few years I changed my mind about the marketing plan and I began creating one every year. As usual, I kept it simple but it was good enough to get me organized. It covered:

  • What I was marketing
  • To whom I was marketing
  • How I was going to market
  • Who was going to help me

In truth, I needed more than this to be more powerful in my message and attract new customers. I needed to connect to my customers from my heart and stop trying to sell. That created the single biggest shift in my marketing. I enjoyed the process as a result. It made marketing fun!

Then another big a-ha moment came several years ago when I was doing a VIP day with my mentor. I was complaining about marketing and planning, and she asked if I wanted to see how she planned her marketing campaigns.

My reply, “Hell YES!”

She gave me the golden key to making my marketing efficient. She gave me a system. It was a month-at-a-glance calendar with ‘post it’ notes describing what was happening in the marketing department attached to the day it was happening.

Holy Hannah! Brilliant and easy. Right up my alley!

I went home and immediately did something similar. But what I realized instantly was that you couldn’t just plan out a month at a time. If I was going to create a plan that flowed, I had to do a whole year at a time.

That got my ticker in overwhelm at first. So I chunked the process down.

  1. Decide the events and classes I would offer for the year.
  2. Choose dates for the above based on my marketing funnel.
  3. Choose dates for special promotions on my products.
  4. Leave enough room (white space) in calendar to do Joint Ventures with other people.
  5. Decide how I would deliver my buzz for each campaign. In my case, I use free teleclasses, video trainings, webinars, early bird pricing, special bonuses or a big sale.
  6. Choose specific dates that I would send out marketing.

This process takes me a few weeks to nail down. I carve out two hours, on several different days, to ponder my decisions. Then I send my team the details so they can keep me on track.

This may sound like a pain in the bum, but it’s not. I love that I know exactly what is needed and when, for my marketing plan to be implemented. It also makes it easy to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ when people want to partner with me or want me to promote them.

Even if you have never done a marketing ‘campaign’ for one of your products or services, you can create a buzz that creates sales. It is important that a marketing campaign is not made up of one email promotion or one postcard. A campaign means you are willing to be loud and proud of your offering.

I send out 2, 3 and 4 emails a week. Not everyone on my database reads them all, but they’re still on my email list and haven’t opted out. I truly believe what I offer makes a huge difference in the lives of my customers. So why would I be shy about sharing what’s new?

Systems create freedom. Systems make it easier for everyone to do their job more efficiently and with less stress. Create your marketing calendar for the year or even one quarter and you’ll dig the process, too. Most importantly, you’ll see a bigger impact on sales. Kaching!

 

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Winners Ask For What They Want

One of my fav books on attitude is The Aladdin Factor by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen. They say, “If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.”

You have to ask for what you want from yourself, others, the Universe/God, and your own Inner Guidance.

I’m a huge promoter of asking for what you want from your power when you need something from someone in business. If you feel wimpy, whiny, apologetic, justified, irritated, or resentful, you might as well have a billboard above your head saying,

“I’m DISCONNECTED from my POWER.”

I highly recommend waiting to make important requests until you feel confident you are worthy of the other person saying, “YES!” When you understand that you deserve to have whatever you want, you won’t have to worry so much about what you say.

It all boils down to how you feel while you’re saying it.

Whether you’re asking for the sale or for a team member to step up their game… be clear about your desired outcome before you open your mouth.

It’s also critical that you can concisely make your request. You don’t need a long-winded conversation about why you’re asking. Just ask.

Pause. Let them answer or ask a clarifying question if needed.

Then you can state your case powerfully. But this is not a courtroom. It’s a relationship.

Even if you’re in a restaurant asking the waiter for fresh herbs on your salad, they deserve your respect.

Notice how you feel the next time you’re about to ask for something very important to you. Are you asking with:

  • The expectation of getting what you want?
  • Eager anticipation?
  • Fear that you won’t get your needs met?
  • Doubt because your request feels like too much or too little?
  • Resentment because your needs should’ve already been met?

How you feel directly impacts the answer and follow-through you receive.

There is one time when you don’t need to be fully in your power to ask. And that time is when you need emotional support.

Be mad, stressed, sad, sniffly, and not your confident self. However, value yourself enough to ask for a helping hand. It doesn’t matter if you’re viewed as the gal or guy who has it all together. If some part of your business or life is falling apart, the faster you ask for some upliftment or coaching, the faster you’ll be back in your power.

It is not wimpy to feel like a mush pile and state your feelings. Let go of your ego so you can get what you need.

I remember a time in my life that I feared my coach would fire me, because I kept asking her to remind me of my power. I did it several times a day until I got it in the cells of my body. She didn’t fire me, and I found my confidence.

When you’re committed to the outcome, you’ll ask as many times as needed for what you want. I ask my Inner Guidance for support repeatedly throughout the day.

“Please support me in being present in the moment. Bring my ideal clients to me. Help me find peace. Bonk me over the head if you notice me playing small and scared. Let me sleep well tonight. Make me feel refreshed and energetic in the morning. Give me creativity. Let the perfect words flow through my fingertips and onto my computer screen.”

My asking is endless. And I never apologize.

 

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