- Recognize your pattern of destruction, frustration or victimization.
- Surrender to what is. Let go of the pushing, pulling, crying, controlling, and efforting.
- Decide to change the core issue, not the symptoms.
- Take consistent actions to reprogram your relationship with the issue by dealing with your triggers and habits as they come up. Do it in the exact moment that you notice it happening. Get assistance from a friend, coach, therapist…whoever is qualified!
- Stay at it until you have completely changed your inner thoughts and you have the physical evidence that proves it. This may take a few months or a few years. You’re not a loser if it takes longer that you want.
- Ask for your divine guidance to step up the support so you can hear it loud and clear.
- Play to win.
Are you really good at handling cr@p?
Do you pride yourself on being able to put out fires in your business faster than the best firefighters? Are you able to dodge bullets in a single leap? Is it your job to turn every no into a yes? Are you masterful at living on a shoe-string budget? If you answer yes to any of the above, or even wished you could handle these issues like a pro, you’re probably used to tolerating less than ideal situations and circumstance. Yes, bad stuff happens to good and even somewhat enlightened people. But when you get really good at handling cruddy stuff often enough, you become comfortable with it. You might think that you’re living better now that you’re able to tolerate bad stuff without flying off the handle, but is that really a good thing? In the beginning it is a good thing. Let’s say you’ve been financially struggling for years. Every day you’re reminded of all that you can’t afford. You long for a vacation with your loved ones on a lush island or have been dying to go on a safari but know that it won’t happen for years…if ever. It feels like a huge success if you get all of your bills paid on time each month. Maybe it’s worse than that. You’ve got debt collectors calling and maxed out credit cards and you fret you’re about to lose it all. Would it be a good thing to stop stressing out every day about how broke you are and focus on shifting your mindset to a more calm relationship with what is? Heck, YES! There is no way you create financial abundance when you’re constantly wigging out about it. But once you get calm, you must take further steps and actions to actually increase the amount of money coming in and decrease the money going out. When you’ve lessened the negative emotional charge, now you can actively begin the nitty-gritty work of rewiring your relationship with money. Like I’ve said over and over before, this stuff takes practice. As each money trigger pops up in your daily life, you have to deal with it in the moment and be more deliberate about how you want to react. Next comes the hard core focus on expecting the increase of money in your account without the attachment to how or when it will come. The key here is not to get used to crappy stuff all the time. When your past and present is full of conflict, it becomes easier to tolerate it and not take the time or energy to break the pattern. You say you want something different yet it may not be painful enough to do something about it. You may have even become numb to the pain. A little pain is good. Notice the discomfort and vow to be a different way. Take an action immediately that gets you a little closer to the way of life you really desire. This the same process you’d use if you felt like you were in a constant state of overwhelm at work or if you always felt fuzzy about which action steps to take next. Make friends with your nasty inner voices so they’ll get off your back, then take the next steps to kick them to the curb and replace with your power house inner business expert. Here is the flow: