Ask the Right Questions

Most ideas begin with enthusiasm. Sometimes you hit a roadblock in your mind as fast as the good idea came. Other times you begin to act on the idea and then find yourself stumped. Is it time to jump ship when the boat springs a leak? Not necessarily.

You could immediately try to plug up the hole. I recommend asking some questions first. Not just any questions, but the right questions. How do you know if they are right? They should lead you to an answer that will move you toward what you want.

In our example of a leaking hole, you could ask the following:

  1. Why do these things always happen to me?
    2. Should I sue the manufacturer of this ship?
    3. What is the best solution for fixing the hole in this moment?
    4. Who is responsible for allowing this hole to manifest?

Which question will attract the most useful response? The third question gets my vote. It will lead you to an answer that you can use to fix the ship and set sail. The other questions may get you a response that is interesting, but is it the most useful?

Who you are asking the question of is also important. Ask yourself the question first. Many times we have our own answers but look to everyone else for advice. You are your own best expert when you’re not caught up in the emotional drama of a problem. Calm yourself down before you begin asking questions. After checking in with yourself, you might then ask some other questions of people who will support you in moving toward your desired end result.

The types of questions you ask will reflect where you’re focused. Let’s say your goal is to have a ten percent increase in profits this month. Asking yourself, “What will happen if I don’t attract it?” is not a productive question. A better question is, “What is a simple way I can increase my profits immediately?”

I ask myself daily, “What is most important for me to focus on today?”

What’s the question you’ll ask yourself to be better aligned with your most important desire?

 

 

 

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Original Publish Date: July 19, 2011

 

Categories: Business, Manifesting Desires, Personal Growth, Success Strategies, and Wealth.

Backup Plans

When you have a goal or desire that is important to you, do you ever go into mental overdrive before you see the results? I know I have.

You can go into overdrive in several ways:

  • Thinking about every possible scenario that could go wrong
  • Thinking about solutions for every scenario that could go wrong
  • Anxiety striking, and when your head hits the pillow at night you have one- sentence mental loops like, “I’m not going to have enough money. I’m not going to have enough money”
  • Wavering back and forth between two or three plans of attack to manifest your goal
  • Stewing on the fact that you don’t know how to get the desire; feeling unclear and creating anxiety on “being stuck” or not knowing the next steps

Finally, you create a plan for what you’ll do as a worst-case backup. Now you’re just flat-out worn down and feel mentally beaten up.

If your backup plan doesn’t feel good, don’t count on it. Use a backup plan to soothe you, knowing you at least have a plan. Then make another decision. Make a plan, an intention, for the way you’d like to have it happen.

I have a perfect example of this. Some years back I had a rather large expense pop up that wasn’t planned. The cash wasn’t available, and the due date was looming. I say looming because I had begun to feel tension about not knowing how I was going to pay for it.

My mind searched for the worst-case scenario backup plan. The best I could come up with was to put it on a charge card. I checked in with how it felt. Not ideal, but hey, it’s a worst-case backup plan.

I let the backup plan take away my tension. Then I made the real plan: Attract new cash. Well, there was really no plan for how to do that. I just decided it would be so.

I checked in with my inner guidance and kept receiving the message that the money would arrive. I was going on pure trust because I was seeing no evidence that any new substantial amounts of money would be coming to me.

Then the “hows” began to arrive. I called the company to which I owed the money and asked if they could give me another week. The answer was yes. Cool.

Then I began to take a stand for the value that I bring to my current and future clients. I began speaking differently to inquiries about business. It wasn’t what I was saying but who I was being. It was a not a conscious effort. It just happened. The result was more than enough money.

Two days later the money I needed for the expense showed up—and so much more.

The backup plan was long forgotten by then. If you don’t have a plan, make one up.

Next, decide what you really want.

Then chill out so your best-case plan can unfold.

Do you have a backup plan? If so, let me know about it in the comments below.

 

 

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Categories: Business, Manifesting Desires, Personal Growth, Success Strategies, and Wealth.

How to Create or Upgrade Your Lady Mafia

How much money comes into your life is a direct result of what you consider to be the “reality” of how easy (or hard) it is to attract prosperity. You might have a great vision of yourself doing great work in the world and being compensated handsomely for it… but your environment may be dragging you down.

I asked Denise Duffield-Thomas, a manifesting maven, to share one of her secrets for upgrading your money setpoint. This girl just blew me away with her announcement of a three-book deal with the most badass publishing company in the industry! I wanna be like her when I grow up. ;-)

HOW TO CREATE OR UPGRADE YOUR LADY MAFIA

Do you ever get the feeling that your friends are bringing you down?

When you hang out with friends, do you feel like you can’t mention money because you think so differently than the people you’re hanging out with?

Don’t worry, we’re going to talk about what to do when you know you have to create or upgrade your lady mafia, and I have a great resource for you to use afterward, too.

WHAT IS A LADY MAFIA?

Your lady mafia is that group of friends or mastermind buddies who you know will always have your back. These are your “ride or die” friends and mastermind buddies.

They’re the friends you celebrate your successes, your ah-has, and your screw-ups with.

But…

You can outgrow your lady mafia.

It’s sad, but true: if you’re working on your mindset, your business, and your money blocks, and your fellow lady posse members aren’t, then chances are you’ll outgrow them pretty soon, if you haven’t already.

HOW DO YOU UPGRADE YOUR LADY MAFIA?

First of all, check who you’re hanging out with.

Are they friends who have all said that they want to start a business, but then just moan on about how they can’t quite decide what to do or that it’s too hard?

If you’re on fire with ideas and enthusiasm but your lady posse likes to sit and whine, then you’re not an energetic match… and I’m sorry, sweetheart, but it’s really likely that they’ll bring you down.

When that happens, you pay with decreased business motivation that reflects in your bottom line.

If you need to upgrade your lady mafia now, then here are a few ideas of how you can:

Suggest that you all study a mindset or manifestation course together, or read a book on the subject to lift you all up.

Give them a chance to get on the train with you, but if you expend a lot of your energy to keep everyone motivated and enthused, it’s not worth it.
You might have to face the fact that it’s time to cut your ties to that group.

Cut your ties. It can be as simple as saying that you can’t make your meetups anymore, or arranging other activities for yourself whenever the old group schedules something.

Manifest yourself a new lady mafia! This might sound hard right now, but if you’ve cleared a space for it and created a vacuum as well as gotten really specific about what you want, it will happen fast.

If you want immediate support with your money mindset and to release any money blocks so can upgrade your life… you’ll dig this.

(There’s no cost.)

This is also a great opportunity to connect with a new lady mafia, and once you learn to break through your money blocks, abundance will begin to flow toward you easily and without struggle.

It’s your time, and you’re ready for the next step.

 

 

Denise Duffield-Thomas is the money mindset mentor for the new wave of online female entrepreneurs. Denise helps women release their fear of money, set premium prices for their services, and take back control over their finances.

Categories: Business, Manifesting Desires, Personal Growth, Success Strategies, and Wealth.

How to Get Massive Support in Your Biz

I’ve been called a control freak, multitasker, goofball, magnificent manifester, and just plain ole freak. I can relate to all of them. However, the one that used to really irritate me is when someone said I wasn’t a good delegator.

Why? Because I see how often it doesn’t even occur to me to ask for help. I’m used to figuring stuff out with my Inner Business Expert (aka Divine Guidance) or whoever is coaching me. After years of being single and a solo-entrepreneur I created a bad habit of handling everything myself.

I cured myself once I had kids. My time and energy was poured into feeding, bathing, cuddling, playing, and cleaning up after my boys. I realized quickly that the only way to stay sane was to expand my circle of support.

There is no way to generate a huge increase in revenue, and sustain it, if you’re not tapping into the expertise and support of other people. Even if you have a GREAT team and you think you ask for help often, see how much more support you could receive!

Ask yourself:

  • Who could help me do this better, easier, and faster?
  • Who could help put a unique spin on my idea?
  • Who could challenge my beliefs/story on this topic?
  • Who could introduce me to more ideal clients?
  • Who could help me get the word out about my products, programs, and services?
  • Who does social media, marketing, websites, or systems really well?
  • Who could assist me in the office or house with the stuff I can’t get to?
  • Who is a great leader?
  • Who is awesome at brainstorming?
  • Who would support me in getting WAY outside of my box?
  • Who makes me feel good?

Challenge yourself to come up with at least 5 people for each question.

Next, ask yourself, “If I had full permission and knew I’d be seen in a positive light, what would I ask for specifically?”

Check in and see if you’re playing it safe. You want to ask for help so that you can dramatically increase the quality of your life and the amount of abundance you experience.

Imagine that being selfish was really about self-love or being self-full (which it is).

Now it’s time to ask! What’s the best way to ask, especially if you’re not in a position to pay for help?

Simple. From your heart. You don’t have to promise to do something in return. If you know you can be of service to them and you feel inspired to offer that service, by all means do it. However, it’s not critical in this process.

When you have an idea, you’ll always have access to the resources, people, and money to actualize it. But you have to take the first step.

Asking for help is the easiest way to get from where you are to somewhere even better.

And if you get stuck on who and how to ask… ask your Inner Guidance for help. ;-)

 

WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE, BLOG OR WEB SITE?

You can, as long as you include this complete blurb with it: Jeanna Gabellini is a Master Business Coach who assists conscious entrepreneurs to double (and even triple) their profits by leveraging attraction principles, proven strategies and fun. Grab her FREE audio on dialing in your biz here: https://masterpeacecoaching.com/freecd

Original Publish Date: July 19, 2011

 

Categories: Business, Manifesting Desires, Personal Growth, Success Strategies, and Wealth.