We all know someone who consistently does the “Yeah, but…” thing. They complain about something in their life and when solutions are offered they tell you why each one won’t work. It’s maddening to listen to them and yet you want to show them what’s possible.
Of course, it’s easy to see when someone else is committed to being stuck in the “Yeah, but’s…”, but what about when it’s YOU?! It’s very easy to miss the signs that you, too, are more committed to your suffering than moving forward to win. In fact, you get used to your pain and it becomes quite normal. You accept that you don’t have enough money and refer to yourself as financially hurt. You think, act, make decisions and talk like a person who is broke.
It’s easy to fall into this trap in any area of your life. The doctor tells you that you officially have a “condition” and you say okay, I’m stuck with this. Your business hits a plateau and you stay there for life thinking “these are just the cards I was dealt in life.”
You may put off vacations, leaving a mate, leaving a job, exercising, learning something new, moving or a host of other things because you are committed to all the reasons it is not possible for you to have what you want. You’re not alone. I catch myself doing it, too! I’ll think about a home improvement project and come up with why it can’t be done now.
Guess what? As long as you and I keep telling ourselves why it’s not possible, ain’t NOTHING gonna be different! I remember watching this phenomenon happen to me with some business debt I had acquired with my partner, Eva Gregory. We funded our live radio show out of San Francisco (before internet radio was big) and we ended with more debt than we could handle in a few months. So, we got used to the debt sitting there, barely going down.
Shortly after I had paid off ALL debt in my personal life within nine months, I made a decision about the business debt. It was time for it to go bye-bye. Three months later it was gone. It only took three months after sitting there for YEARS! We paid a ton of money in interest rates during those years simply because we were bogged down in thinking we had to be stuck with the debt and hadn’t decided it could be different.
If you stop with the excuses and get your focus off of “what-is” you will have a different experience. Things will shift fast. I’ve witnessed this time after time with clients who have no movement in their business and finances and then a month later everything changes drastically for the better.
They stopped feeling sorry for themselves and took charge. They bit the bullet and invested in themselves. Stop accepting the discomfort in your life. Get up, move forward and invest in a solution. If it doesn’t work try something else. Use your inner guidance and the support of others to find a new reality in which you win.
Jeanna Gabellini, is a Master Business Coach who assists high achieving entrepreneurs, corporate leaders & their teams to leverage fun, systems and intentionality for high-octane results. Jeanna co-authored Life Lessons for Mastering the Law of Attraction with Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen and Eva Gregory. Get a FREE subscription to her weekly ezine to go BIG, with less effort here: http://www.MasterPeaceCoaching.com/ezine