At some point in your life you’ve felt down, probably more than once. Somebody you cared about may have had a misfortune, your heart was broken, a health issue stopped you cold in your tracks or you had a financial disaster. Nobody is immune to feeling blue.
But the problem is when you get stuck there for longer than necessary. I once had the money blues for over a year and it wreaked havoc on my overall quality of life. I was there for waaaay too long. I’d become a victim to the circumstance and it stole my confidence. For the first time in my eighteen years as an entrepreneur, I didn’t know if I would recover.
Of course, I did recover and I came back better than ever. If I had to do it again, would I? HELL, NO! However, if I had to it again, I would’ve approached it very differently. I would’ve ‘fessed up to myself, and others, how I really felt.
I didn’t start out feeling blue or depressed. I began with a feeling of being out of control and a little nervous. I had been so focused on a personal issue at the time, I was paying little attention to my business. By the time I noticed, I was going broke fast.
I’d always been able to quickly recover from a financially slow month or two, but this had gone out of control. I was charging my groceries and everyday needs on a credit card and it was at its limit. My emotions quickly went into panic mode and of course, that’s no good for attracting new money. The more I focused on my urgent need for money, the more helpless I felt. I let my emotions consume me, therefore I was stuck in a holding pattern.
What I highly recommend if you have the money blues (or any other type of blues) is to take a step back and see what is happening from a meta-view. When I stepped outside of my emotions, what I saw was a previously successful business owner who was beating herself up, I put the whip down.
Next, I created a spreadsheet of all my debt, monthly expenses and began tracking my income. I knew it wasn’t going to be pretty, but I needed to face the situation rather than running from it. When I got a grasp on the severity of my financial snapshot, I surrendered to it. I was broke, had no creativity or inspiration in sight and no idea how to make a comeback.
I created a couple of new daily habits to support my finances and business. The most important thing I did was to commit to myself that I was going to pay off the debt and get back into making a profit. My plan was minimal, because I really didn’t know what actions I could take to create financial peace at that time, with my current perspective.
I can say now that having that financial crisis was a blessing because I now know the power of making a solid decision. My decision to move forward served me well. In less than a year, the debt was at zero and I was back into six-figures.
My advice to anybody with the blues is…
- Allow yourself to feel the pain but not for so long that it swallows you whole and spits you back out
- Look at the reality of the moment head on. Tell the truth.
- Drop any judgment. You’re human so “stuff happens”. Even if you’ve had the blues longer than I did, so what?! It is what it is. You’re still a rock star under the blue costume.
- Make the decision to move toward an outcome. Something that will empower you and that you’d feel thrilled about arriving.
- Create a few new habits or structures that you will practice to support the journey to somewhere fresh and alive (cuz blue feels dead).
- Give it time. You may see or feel relief in days. Or it may be weeks. But it will come. I felt better in less than a month and soon thereafter I literally began finding and attracting large sums of money…where there was none before. If I didn’t know about Law of Attraction, it might’ve freaked me out!
Feeling down on your luck for any length of time truly does suck. It can impact your self-worth, health and relationships. Do yourself a favor and take back the reigns of your life. Your power is not far if you’ll just reach for it.
What habits can you add to the list to make a comeback?
Jeanna Gabellini, is a Master Business Coach who assists high achieving entrepreneurs, corporate leaders & their teams to leverage fun, systems and intentionality for high-octane results. An entrepreneur for 20 years she has a treasure trove of kick-butt tools to give you peace & profits. A Gift For You! Get your complimentary Business Building Audio CD “Transforming from Chaotic Entrepreneur to Conscious Leader” for the entrepreneur who wants to be a SUPERpreneur: http://www.masterpeacecoaching.com/freecd