I inadvertently became an entrepreneur about the time I turned twenty-one. My mother told me that she and my brother were starting a business and I didn't want to be left out. I created two other businesses before going through coach training eight years later.

By that time I knew how to connect with people, get them to say yes to my offer, show up when I said I would and deliver the goods. But I still wasn't a great business owner. Business was just a way to get paid. And when I started to coach, I got paid for doing something I loved.

As I learned more about business I realized how much I didn't know. I saw myself as someone who had great aspirations, yet it felt like it was going to take forever to live my dream. And guess what? It did.

I felt like the little kid dressing up in big kids' clothes. I was trying to be a big player in my business but I felt like I was not old enough, smart enough and didn't have that 'something special' that would get me all the way to the top. I knew what I wanted to create and yet it wasn't happening.

And because I viewed myself as missing something, I got into overdrive. Nothing I did was ever enough. I should do more. If I did more, then good things would happen. I was waiting and not much was happening, except I was creating a big ball of stress in my body.

It got ugly before it got pretty.

That was over ten years ago. I've viewed myself in many different ways as a business owner since then. But the biggest breakthrough came when I finally saw myself as having exactly what my ideal customers needed. I was enough. I knew what I was doing in many areas of business and the areas I didn't know I could ask for help.

I saw myself as someone who could figure anything out as long as I stayed connected to my heart and didn't worry about my performance. Another thing that changed was that I saw the value of looking at the big vision and taking my time to plan out my actions. This was huge.

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